Episode 51

Published on:

1st Nov 2020

Update your expectations and dig into habits with Nick Wignall

Whatever it is you’re doing to cope with the constant new normal of these uncertain times as we barrel into the holiday season, we hope it is healthy but even if it’s not, we’re glad you’re finding a way to self-care. And self-care is one of many topics that our guest today is a master at. Nick Wignall is originally from Northern California, but he’s also lived in Dallas, Rome, Chicago, and now Albuquerque where he lives with his wife, and three daughters. He’s a licensed psychologist at The Cognitive Behavioral Institute of Albuquerque where he does psychotherapy with adults.

Board-certified in behavioral and cognitive psychology (ABPP), he specializes in empirically-supported treatments for anxiety and insomnia, including interoceptive exposure therapy for panic attacks, exposure and response prevention (ERP) for phobias and OCD, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I) for sleep difficulties. He is board certified by the American Board of Professional Psychology, a Diplomate of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy, as well as a member of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies and the New Mexico Psychological Association.


Time Stamps:

5:30 How and why the topic of mental health is still so misunderstood 

8:01 Habits as the most important level of analysis when looking at mental health 

9:14 We talk about the shame associated with mental health and the resistance to admitting that we are not okay

14:00 Nick gives his thoughts on positive psychology

16:45 We discuss men and their perspective on mental health 

21:25 Nick talks about his Drill Sergeant Theory of Motivation 

27:06 Best practices for managing our expectations of ourselves and others 

32:43 How emotionally charged situations can clue you in to what expectations are causing friction in your life 

33:42 Nick talks about mindfulness meditation and how it is currently the most under and overrated thing in popular culture right now 

34:57 Nick shares details about his meditation practice 

40:54 Why we should think of meditation as an exercise and not a coping strategy and how  finding your why when it comes to meditation is so important 

47:13 Nick shares strategies to get started with a mindfulness meditation practice 

52:05 Where to find Nick 

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The Big Self Podcast
Inner Growth. Outer impact.
Shelley and Chad kick off each week with a provocative thought leader who has something to say about the power of inner growth to drive outer impact. From building resilience to life design to life transitions to leadership to growing ourselves up, we touch on all things Big Self. At the back end of the week Chad and Shelley dish on their experiences and expertise.

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Chad Prevost

Dr. Chad has advanced degrees in creative writing, literature, and theology. Being married to a psychotherapist has been another education. A workshop leader and entrepreneur, he has started and participated in writing and literary arts communities in New York, Austin, Atlanta and Chattanooga. He also has experience writing as a journalist for startups in tech and logistics. He is the author of several books of poetry, as well as interactive-fiction for youth. Over the years, he has innovated writing processes to foster reflection and insight, narrative strength, and authentic voice.