Episode 31

Published on:

7th Jul 2020

Learning Curve: Shining a light on the shadow side

On this week's episode we shine a bright spotlight on the shadow side that would rather lurk behind the scenes of our personalities. Do our shadows want to be left alone, or are they begging to be heard and leak out in uncomfortable ways?

We ask: How can you completely and wholeheartedly accept who you are if there are sides of yourself that you’re too afraid to explore?

The keyword here is “integration,” which comes from the Latin word integratus, meaning to make whole. To integrate an inner quality is to take ownership and responsibility for it, rather than rejecting or denying it. The benefits are many: sanity, healing, greater compassion, calmness, understanding, and wholeness are all to be found in integration.

We also leave you with five specific ways to learn more about these other sides of yourself, and what to do about it when you become aware. It's not easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is. Thanks for tuning in and being a part of the Big Self School of higher learning.


0:28 We begin our conversation by talking about the shadow and why it's so important to be aware of it as we're seeking self-knowledge.

4:04 The shadow, defined.

6:55 We talk about the persona as the opposite of the shadow

11:05 We share a Robert Green quote about how we're seeing people play out their shadow sides in this divided political climate.

16:32 The first of 5 questions we can ask to help us uncover our shadow.

21:03 We introduce the second and third questions

24:09 What do you want? That's question #4.

25:36 The fifth action we can take to understand the shadow.

28:30 We wrap up by mentioning a few books to help you shine a light on your shadow.

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The Big Self Podcast
Inner Growth. Outer impact.
Shelley and Chad kick off each week with a provocative thought leader who has something to say about the power of inner growth to drive outer impact. From building resilience to life design to life transitions to leadership to growing ourselves up, we touch on all things Big Self. At the back end of the week Chad and Shelley dish on their experiences and expertise.

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Chad Prevost

Dr. Chad has advanced degrees in creative writing, literature, and theology. Being married to a psychotherapist has been another education. A workshop leader and entrepreneur, he has started and participated in writing and literary arts communities in New York, Austin, Atlanta and Chattanooga. He also has experience writing as a journalist for startups in tech and logistics. He is the author of several books of poetry, as well as interactive-fiction for youth. Over the years, he has innovated writing processes to foster reflection and insight, narrative strength, and authentic voice.